We have always defined happiness as one of the most important things in life and we are not quite sure of its meaning.
Usually happiness is different for every single person. Happiness has probably about 7 billion definitions, unique to every individual on earth.
I remember at school we had a custom when a classmate has a birthday, they buy a box of chocolate for everybody in the class to treat themselves. So you have to come with some wish for the birthday person. Usually good health, happiness, luck, love, etc. You could always try to be original and say something like: “Wish you to become a spaceman and visit Mars.” But we all stuck to the traditional “happiness”, without even meaning anything. You know, the person should figure it out for themselves, wish is done.
I remember it was our teacher that had a birthday one day and I was going with the flow and wishing Happiness. My friend next to me said, “Well, good health and…well… “, everything else was already said about twenty times. So our teacher commented, “Health is the most important thing in life and the rest is the rest”. She had lost her husband recently, so definitely, Happiness wasn’t really a good idea. She also said, “Besides, what is Happiness?”
I remember this so clearly, it just struck me there. So for a long time I was thinking that Happiness is an abstract. It almost doesn’t mean anything. And I believed it for a very long time. That Happiness is a made up word, that it doesn’t really exist and it is stupid to use it in everyday language. So I restrained myself from mentioning it at all…for quite a long time.
This makes me think about many other issues like the time and environment we grew up in, ways we’ve been taught to reason and judge, belief systems we’ve been subjected to, etc. But this is to be discussed later.
For now let’s get back to defining Happiness. Obviously, many of us are coming from a background where Happiness wasn’t considered as a value or even acknowledged. In other societies Happiness was well-connected with materialism as gaining prosperity. In the worst cases Happiness is literally not here on Earth.
So I would like to try to define Happiness, figure out what it is and how we can make it happen more often for us. Turn Happiness into Happen-ness.
Simply, we just want to be happy in our lives.
I suppose this would be more like a research than a guide.
I will be glad to explore and share ideas and experiences with you so we could be happy every day.