A moment of calm

After the little crisis last time I feel better. I can “see” the Happiness again. Or if not the Happiness, I could see outside the borders of this limiting negative condition – despair. It appeared to be a healthy crisis.

Maybe we need this from time to time – to be shaken deeply so we could re-discover our centre again. After the storm has passed, the brightest moment comes – the re-awakening and re-birth of life.

It is not easy to build a discipline and even if you do – you could still lose your balance and become “enslaved” to negative thoughts and emotions. The important here is to let the feeling be for as long as it needs and then forgive yourself instead of punishing yourself for falling in this trap of the mind.

During these moments it is virtually impossible to shift your focus – it requires great power. You know what you should do but you just can’t do it. I think with these situations the best action is non-action – acknowledging the feeling but not intensifying it by worry, blame, panic. The thing is that you can’t really switch off your mind, instead you should try listen to it. Be sane and analyse it, don’t argue with it.

What I found is that writing helped me ease my emotions. By thinking about them and trying to put them into words I momentarily calmed myself down. I somehow “tricked” myself and got out of this avalanche-state where you can’t stop feeding the entire negativism.

It is incredible how we don’t notice what is already ours and here around us. And even more incredible is how we actually get to recognize it once again.

Very often by hearing bad news of someone else, especially someone close – one of the things that could get us out of the “me” state, in my opinion.

Then this amazing new “sight” comes when you see that it is not about you only and you actually have to be grateful for what you have at the moment, and also be supportive of the others. You need to overcome your weaknesses in order to help others to overcome theirs. And also being frightened and anxious doesn’t do any good to anyone. If you can’t focus on the positive aspect of yourself, concentrate on your friend or family in need. This will raise the light between you and bring you both to a new level of “better-being”.

We are all here to learn and every experience is a lesson. We can choose to progress or stay blocked. It is our will.

Making a small change in ourselves affects greatly everyone around us. Remember the Butterfly effect.

This is the core of Happiness itself. A small thought or act of happiness is spreading the vibration and energy of it across and around. Remember also that energy doesn’t dissolve – it transmutes.

We have all it is needed to change ourselves into happier people and the world into a happier place.

It is our free will.

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I'm Vilina Christoph and I share my journey of healing and transformation. My awakening was triggered by the death of my mother and sister of cancer. When the feelings became too much to handle, I started documenting my experiences of dealing with depression and anxiety, coping with the loss and grief, and the general lack of motivation and joy in life.  Since the beginning of this journey of transformation I've learned compassion, acceptance and love for myself and others. My mission is to encourage others to look into their pain and take on the path of self-love. By accepting who you are with all your imperfections, by loving yourself fully with all your wounds, you find the strength to be your most authentic self and you unlock your unique gifts in the world.

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