The glory of friendship is not the outstretched hand, not the kindly smile, nor the joy of companionship; it is the spiritual inspiration that comes to one when you discover that someone else believes in you and is willing to to trust you with a friendship. – Ralph Waldo Emerson
I have been thinking a lot about my friends recently – some of them back in Bulgaria, some even further away on other continents, and some I only have met in the internet space. No matter where they are, I feel supported.
And this post is my tribute to them.
To all of you who haven’t forgotten me after many years being away and almost no contact. And to all of you who have never even met me and still reaching out to connect.
I know I’m not alone and although I’ve isolated myself during the past years, I’ve never thought my friends will forget me. And I hope you forgive me as well, for not keeping in touch.
It’s only now that I find the will and strength to open up to the world again.
Only now I feel that perhaps I can talk about what has been happening to me these years.
Only now do I feel that I have the words for it.
And I’m hoping you would want to listen. I’m hoping it’s not too much to ask of you, to listen to my sorrow and grief. Because it’s still here. And I need to get it out of me, my friends. And you will have to help me.
Because only a real friend can listen, and just listen with their heart. And that’s all I need right now. I need you to let me back into your thoughts, your hearts.
And I know it’s not easy to let somebody else’s pain into your life. That’s why I kept it so long just for myself, to spare you that burden. But that burden doesn’t go away, I realised, if I just hold on to it. It gets heavier and heavier. I can barely hold it on my shoulders anymore.
We need each other as people. People need people. It’s the only way. I had to learn that the hard way. Believe me, I really thought I can do it by myself! I’ve been taught to be self-reliant in my life – I believe the worst lesson I got in life.
We’re not meant to go through it all just by ourselves, but on the contrary.
What I’m learning now is to open up and look for help. I’m learning to reach out, talk, share in a healthy way. I’m taking small steps but making tremendous changes in my life.
Thank you for listening.
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