Today I am introducing a new feature on the blog – guest posts and interviews from other authors and writers. These would normally be people who have been through and have overcome certain adversities in their lives. They will be sharing their stories, practices and messages of transformation.
Our very first guest is Alexis Rose, an author of the incredible memoir Untangled, a story of resilience, courage, and triumph. I found Alexis’s blog and her articles instantly captivated me. I went on to buy and read her book too and since then I’ve been feeling very connected to her and her journey of transformation.
Here are Alexis own words:
Tell us a little bit about your life journey.
Up until 2009 I had a good career in the field of staff recruitment and marketing. I loved my job, and was getting to a point in my career where I felt as if I could exhale a bit when it came to financial security. In October of 2009 sparked by a family tragedy, I began having flashbacks, although, I didn’t know they were flashbacks at the time. I had purposely repressed my past, but when my snow-globe world was shattered, I began to piece together, for the first time, a personal history of abuse and trauma.
The past 8 years, I have been learning to live with the effects of my trauma, and working with the deficits caused from PTSD. I have co-authored three inspirational books and published my memoir about 16 months ago, which has propelled me forward on my healing journey.
Three words that define you the best (or more if you feel compelled).
Kind, Compassionate, Resilient
What was the life event that triggered the beginning of your personal transformation?
My 16-year-old daughter was walking across the street going to school one morning and was hit by a van going 30 mile-per-hour. Getting that call from the police, changed everything in an instant. She has recovered and is doing wonderfully. But as I mentioned in the above paragraph, my world came crashing down. I thought I had control over everything, I found I had control over nothing and my repressed past started exploding from my psyche. It was at that time, I began my personal transformation. I was determined to become a whole person with a congruent past, and live with the truth, blinders off.
What was the life event that made you start blogging/ writing/sharing your experiences with the world?
When I released my memoir, and was looking at how to market my book, blogging was a huge suggestion. I also heard that I needed to start a blog from many authors. To be honest, I never really heard of blogging besides as a way to document your travel experiences. Someone helped me set up a WordPress account, and it took off from there.
Immediately, I was in awe of the wonderful bloggers I encountered all over the world. I was connecting with people who are like-minded, who have a completely different outlook, who are survivors, authors, poets, painters, travelers, and much, much more. I love the blogging community. I love growing with my blog and following these amazing people. One of the gifts of releasing Untangled, is that it brought me to the blogging world.
What was your best “aha” moment during your healing journey?
There are way too many to mention. I think the whole healing journey has been one big “aha” moment. Some of them wonderful, some of them extremely painful. But, all of them necessary for my healing.
What do you find most difficult to deal with on daily basis?
It’s extremely hard to deal with the symptoms of my PTSD. I still experience flashbacks when triggered. I have a hard time concentrating, which affects my ability to work, I can’t just jump in the car and run errands. My life has changed dramatically. I’m still working on accepting that this is part of the illness that affects me daily.
What are your best practices to get yourself back on track?
I have a few. Writing is huge healing tool for me. I also have a yoga and meditation practice that helps, and a really good support system.
What is the definition of healed for you?
That’s a really good question. I’m not sure I have a definition of healed. I’m not sure if I will ever be fully healed. But, to live feeling some inner peace, contentment and being set free by knowing the truth of my past has been an incredible part of this healing journey.
What keeps you writing and sharing your journey?
I’m passionate about destigmatizing living with a mental illness, especially PTSD (since that is the illness that I have and know). I seem to be able to bring a voice to other’s who may not be able or ready to articulate their feelings, and to also educate those who know, love or work with someone who is struggling with PTSD. It has been a wonderfully, humbling experience to have had this happen because of sharing my writing and journey.
What is your message to others who are going through adversity and pain?
It’s a long, bumpy and non-linear path to healing, but stay on it. Recognize those perfect moments, seconds in a day and seek out support, however that looks and feels for you.
Do you have a hero or somebody who inspires your actions?
All the survivors who I have connected with on the blog, all the survivors who have read my book and reached out to me, and all the survivors whom I have had the pleasure to meet along the way when I give presentations are my hero’s. I’m inspired by the resilience of trauma survivors every single day.
If you can change one thing about your life circumstances, what would that be?
I would like to feel a greater sense of inner peace.
Where do you see yourself in one year?
I’m not sure! But I will continue to grow and change throughout the year.
Where can others find you/contact you?
My blog: https://atribeuntangled.com/blog/
My email: firstname.lastname@example.org
To purchase my book on Amazon: Untangled, A Story of Resilience, Courage, and Triumph
Make sure you ask Alexis any questions you may have. And share this post if you think it may help someone else. Infinite thanks!